People say life happens in threes. I want to give you my “three sets of threes” to live by.
- What you should do more of.
- What you should do less of.
- What you need to stop doing right now.
Let’s Start With The Bad
It’s time for you to stop doing these altogether.
Stop Putting Yourself Last
We’ve all heard the instructions on an airplane that go something like “please put on your oxygen mask before helping others.”If you put yourself last, how are you going to be equipped mentally or physically to help anyone else? Your child, spouse, teammates, and boss all need the best version of you to flourish.
Stop Second-Guessing Yourself
When you come up with an idea, instead of second-guessing yourself, spend time and energy figuring out how to make it happen. When you second-guess yourself, you do the worst thing ever, nothing.
Completely Let Go of the Past
Don’t forget where you came from or lessons learned. To move forward means that you have to leave your past behind you. If you are constantly going back to how things used to be, it’s extremely difficult to move towards any goal or find enjoyment in what you do.
I can guarantee if you stop doing these three things right now, you’ll be much happier. It doesn’t mean you won’t have your work cut out for you, but you won’t be held back by your own devices.
Things You Should Do Less
Do you ever feel like you’re trying to do too much? Like you’re stretched too thin, and you can’t seem to catch a break? It’s easy to feel that way when we’re constantly told to “do more” and “be more.”
Notice I didn’t say “not to worry at all”. Even if I did, you wouldn’t do it. It’s our nature to evaluate every situation and worry about potential outcomes. Instead, I suggest you try to worry a little less. Focus on positive results instead of focusing on the what-ifs.
Expect Things to Be Easy Less
To enjoy the path ahead, you have to be realistic about what it takes to get there. If you’re raising children, realistically, you need to be prepared for the potential of challenging times. Parents and kids aren’t always on the same page, and not all kids are exact replicas of their parents. You have to be willing to do the work to reap the rewards.
Multitask a Little Less
That might sound counterproductive, but when you give your full attention to one thing, you’ll be amazed at how quickly and effectively you can complete a task. In the same sense, if you devote your full attention to one person simultaneously, you’ll be surprised how much that relationship will improve.
Habitually, we’re terrible listeners. We’re constantly doing multiple things at once and planning responses instead of paying attention and listening.
Doing less of these three things will drastically improve your mood throughout the day, you won’t feel as much pressure, and you’ll reap the reward of more significant and deeper relationships that make life easier.
Do More of These Three Things to Improve Your Life
I’ve told you what not to do. I’ve told you what to do less of. Now what three things can you do to provide a greater sense of purpose and happiness in your life?
Take Care of Yourself
I’m not talking about spa days or pedicures. I mean, take care of yourself. Are you physically where you need to be, mentally where you need to be, and spiritually where you need to be? When you give yourself a little more TLC, everyone around you benefits greatly.
Have More Positive Internal Dialogue
Internal dialogue tends to be way too pessimistic. If you pay attention to your inner dialogue, you’ll realize the little voice inside your head tells you things like “don’t eat that you’ll regret it later” or “don’t try that it won’t work”.
If you become aware of that internal dialogue, you can start to change it. You can have more conversations with yourself about positive outcomes and reasons to do things. These conversations help you to get excited, increasing the chances of going after it.
One of the most remarkable ways to boost your productivity is by sharing your tips and tricks. Mentoring another individual brings a level of joy and enthusiasm back into your life. This joy may have slipped away due to stress and concerns. When you mentor, both people win. You start to gain some of the excitement you had when you were in the mentee’s shoes. It’s a great way to remind yourself how far you’ve come and how much you learned throughout your journey.
I hope you decide to give these a try, you don’t have to use my points verbatim. Try to think of your own “threes” to improve your life.
- Three things that make you completely miserable.
- Three things you allow to be more of a factor than they should be.
- Three things that bring you happiness that you don’t do enough of.
Challenge yourself to stop doing what you don’t need to. Do less of things that aren’t always necessary, and do more of what feels right. Work-life and home-life both take work. They both take effort. They both require time and energy. Time is one thing that we cannot get more of, it’s crucial to make the best use of time we have.
Last modified: March 31, 2022