Generation after generation you see proof of human evolution. Whether it’s improvements in science and technology that keep us alive longer or it’s genetic evolutions that make us a larger and stronger or a more intellectual species. There is no doubt that evolution is real; humans evolve.
So if change is the constant, why do we fear it so much? Why do we hold on to the “old ways” and frown upon natural selection’s path for us?
Charles Darwin states that “all species of organisms arise and develop through the natural selection of small, inherited variations that increase the individual’s ability to compete, survive and reproduce.” The more I learn about Darwinism, the more evident it becomes that we must embrace evolution because it is truly inevitable.
Advancements in the medical field, technology, general science and more bring about required changes necessary to continue to compete, survive and reproduce in our ever changing world. If you fear these changes, and refuse to evolve, you will find yourself left behind.
Embrace Your Own Personal Evolution
The SheHandlesIt mindset is truly about embracing your own personal evolution. You shouldn’t be afraid to reinvent yourself, it is actually necessary for your growth. As the world around you changes and adapts, so should you in order to continue to compete, survive and reproduce.
Gone are the days in which a woman’s role is to solely be a caregiver and homemaker. Gone also are the days where a man is expected to be the “breadwinner”. In today’s society it isn’t just acceptable that women and men share responsibilities, it is absolutely necessary.
In 2021, 53.3% of households were dual income. That percentage is up from 51.9% the previous year. The need for two income families has risen mostly out of necessity from rising costs of goods and services. Demand increases for larger homes and bigger cars and more lavish spending habits.
Income used to be based on ensuring that your family had a roof over your head and food on the table. Now there is more of a need for material things, investments and even travel and vacations. These desires were nowhere near as prominent 100 years ago. Family vacations were reserved for the wealthy and not something that the middle class could afford.
I’m sharing all of this for one reason, that is to hopefully encourage you to no longer be afraid of change but to instead welcome it and embrace it fully. Take pride in seeing how you personally and professionally evolve.
We All Go Through Several Evolutions
Don’t wrinkle your nose at how someone else lives their life, instead, try and understand it. Ask questions and learn from the answers given. If we weren’t supposed to grow or change, the world would just be full of infants.
I’ve mentioned in several of my blogs that I have gone through several evolutions in my life. My core values and morals have never changed but how I perceive myself, others and the world around me, has definitely evolved.
Some of my evolutions have been small, like my appearance. I care less about how others see me and more about how my appearance makes me feel. If I feel good about how I look, I bring a different level of confidence to everything I do.
Some evolutions have been large, like my career. As a highschool student I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to help mentor and develop new minds for the future. Now as a 42 year old, my goal for mentoring and developing future minds is the same but my career took a very different path. I don’t just want to help young minds, but I also want to help those who feel stuck and don’t see a path upwards.
Decisions Based on Fear
I can look back on different choices I had to make in my life. Some were made out of fear, some were made in spite of fear. Decisions from fear were always the choices that left the biggest impact.
A great example of that is when I made the decision to relocate from Florida to Pennsylvania. I was scared, actually I was scared shitless. It was one of the first times in my life that I made a decision based on what I wanted to happen versus what I felt secure would happen.
I left a job of 8 years and relocated without any job secured at all. It was a bumpy road but is what a path that I chose and I also chose to embrace it. Had I let fear stop me, I would not be in the position I am today with the ability to impact so many people.
Don’t Think About What Could Have Been
We all have situations in our lives that we wish would have happened differently but the truth is, if you spend all of your time thinking about what could have been, you won’t be able to enjoy where you’re at. Where you are, is the only point in time that you can control. If you aren’t happy or satisfied with the now, then make a change.
Evolutions don’t have to be large, they can start small and they can start now. If you’re unhappy with your weight, you can cut back on calories or start a workout regimen today. If you are unhappy with your career, you can start to research new opportunities or gain more education to help you elevate yourself.
I can honestly say that I am proud of who I am today but I am even more proud of who I will be tomorrow. My path has not been easy and life has not always been kind but I take full responsibility for my happiness and for my journey. That my friends, has made all the difference.
Last modified: April 21, 2022